Tuesday, June 18th, 2010
Fifty plus and wish to start dating again after a long long gap. Many would think it is an overwhelming task- especially when dates are difficult to find at that age. No it isn’t. Start searching on an online adult dating site in a category dedicated to senior dating. Searching through dating sites is easy. The first step is to become a member by giving your details including your User Id and email address. These sites have a privacy policy so that there is no fear of your personal detail falling in the wrong hand. Next add your profile with a photo for higher visibility. Now you can let others find you or you find your types by browsing the profiles. There are profiles of thousands of sexy singles, couples over fifty waiting for you. Once you have chosen a profile, contact by email or instant messaging or if the date is online, invite to have a chat using a video or a web cam. These tools are very user friendly and highly effective. While there are no absolutes in senior dating, there are a few tips that may help calm you and increase your chance of success: One purpose of every first date is to decide whether you want a second one. With that in mind, plan a date that encourages conversation and helps you get to know each other. Tailor your first date to include a common interest, hobby which helps establish an immediate connection around that has meaning for both of you. There are gay personals and lesbian personals categories available for those seeking alternate sex. A meal on your first date? Make it lunch and combine it with some fun activity so that you have more things to talk about while you eat. Dinner implies more intimacy yet to come into picture. If the whole idea of dating makes you nervous, consider joining group dating club or participate in a group activity. Be smart, be safe, and have an exit strategy. You are going out with someone you don’t know well, so stick to public places and tell someone you trust who you’re meeting and where you’ll be. If you start to feel uneasy about the person you’re with, and then leave.
Wednesday, June 19th, 2010
A first date is one of the most nerve-wracking aspects of dating at any age. If you are 50+ and just starting to date again after a few years or a few decades, however, the uncertainty about where to go, what to wear, and what to talk about can seem almost insurmountable.
Before the first date, you wonder whether your date will like you, whether you’ll like him or her, and how much dating etiquette has changed since the last time you were out there.
While there are no absolutes when it comes to senior dating, there are a few tried and true strategies that may help calm your nerves and increase your chances for a successful first date:
* One purpose of every first date is to decide whether you want a second one. With that in mind, plan a first date that encourages conversation and helps you get to know each other, and avoid activities like movies and plays that leave you sitting silently in the dark.
* Tailor your first date to include a common interest, hobby, or shared value, which may help you establish an immediate connection around something that has meaning for both of you.
* If you plan to have a meal on your first date, make it lunch and combine it with some fun activity so you have more things to talk about while you eat. Dinner sometimes implies more intimacy than you may be ready for on a first date, and having the whole date depend on two near-strangers sitting across from each other and making conversation can create a lot of pressure.
* If the whole idea of senior dating makes you nervous, consider making your first date a group date with friends, or participating in a group activity such as a wine tasting or charity auction.
* Be smart, be safe, and have an exit strategy. On most first dates you’re going out with someone you don’t know well, so stick to public places and tell someone you trust who you are meeting and where you will be. If you start to feel uneasy about the person you are with, then leave.
* Don’t put all your eggs in this first date basket. If the person doesn’t turn out to be Prince (or Princess) Charming, so what? You met a new person, practiced your conversation skills, and learned more about what you want (and don’t want) in a partner.
Whether you’re 16 or 65, the best way to enjoy a first date is to keep an open mind, focus on the things you have in common, and make your primary goal to simply have a good time.
Thursday, June 20th, 2010
Effective flirting is simply a way to let people know that you noticed them and want to get to know them. Nothing more and nothing less. Keep it light and keep it fun. The most effective flirting always includes a smile and eye contact.
Flirting is a fun activity that everyone should engage in from time to time and thoroughly enjoy. When you take the fun out of flirting, it becomes a high-stress situation that has nothing to do with enjoying yourself. Keep it low pressure, just like dating. Flirting should be all fun and games.
Friday, June 21th, 2010
If you plan to have a meal on your first date, make it lunch and combine it with some fun activity so you have more things to talk about while you eat. Dinner sometimes implies more intimacy than you may be ready for on a first date, and having the whole date depend on two near-strangers sitting across from each other and making conversation can create a lot of pressure. If the whole idea of senior dating makes you nervous, consider making your first date a group date with friends, or participating in a group activity such as a wine tasting or charity auction. Be smart, be safe, and have an exit strategy. On most first dates you’re going out with someone you don’t know well, so stick to public places and tell someone you trust who you are meeting and where you will be. If you start to feel uneasy about the person you are with, then leave.
Friday, June 21th, 2010
Be interested and interesting. Be honest about who you are. No date masks, be compassionate and LISTEN!
Smile and keep smiling. Laugh and keep laughing. Find things that are funny and that make you laugh, like books and movies. You won’t find a happy person unless you become happy first.
Unless you develop a strong sense of self, the people who show up for dates will be like you. You want light? BE the light!
Commit to living each day with an open heart, and to enjoy the second half of your life. Rethink and reexamine your former beliefs, and know that you can have a joyous and fulfilling life no matter where you are in the process.